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Serenity Prayer

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will; that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.”
Reinhold Niebuhr

I came across a bookmark with this prayer on it and loved it so much I decided to post it on my blog. I have seen a shortened version with just the first sentence several times, but the rest of it is just as good. A couple comments on why it resonates with me so much:

  1. It acknowledges the tension between personal development and contentment. I am very interested in conscious growth spiritually, physically, mentally, and socially. However, I also realize the benefit of accepting myself the way the Father made me. But, did the Father make me with or intend me to live with the physical or motivational flaws I have, or should I seek to change these aspects of my physique and personality?
  2. It exalts the concept of living in the moment. When I was in my teens, I had many idealized dreams about my future. Sometimes this was because I did not like myself and so liked imagining a time when I would be a world-class performer, speak to thousands of people, and write books that would change the world. Unfortunately, this idealized future focus caused me to apply myself less in the present. I now try to view each week, each day, and even each moment as special and be grateful for every breath.
  3. It recognizes the role of suffering as the precursor for greater peace and joy. Philosophically, peace and joy do not make a whole lot of sense without suffering. If we did not have painful experiences to compare them with, we would not look at peace or joy as something special, but just as our ordinary experience.
  4. It implies that fighting the world is not our calling, but rather surrendering to His will. Christians are called to follow the Christ’s commandments. Principally, this involves loving YHVH with all your heart and loving your neighbor as yourself. Judging others is usually a reactive attitude, whereas loving others is a proactive behavior
  5. It recognizes that the ultimate goal in life is to find personal fulfillment or happiness. This is true of the here and now and also of eternity. I, too, want to be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Halleluyah!

This prayer really encapsulates my existence right now. Perhaps you would be blessed by thinking about it and making it your prayer as well.

A Month of No Sitting on Chairs or Benches

Trying radical concepts out for short periods of time is, I believe, integral for ongoing personal development. Starting tomorrow, I am embarking on my first monthly challenge: no sitting on chairs or benches.

Here are some reasons why I am doing this:

  1. Sitting on chairs or benches even for short periods of time causes me to have back pain.
  2. It is harder for me to focus on correct posture when sitting on a chair or bench.
  3. I want to develop other rest positions, such as squatting and hero pose, and use them comfortably.

The ground rules are pretty simple. I will not sit on any chair or bench for the next month. This includes couches, piano benches, pews, and stools, as well as ordinary chairs.

The only major exception I am making is car seats. I thought of removing my car seat, but I am not totally sure it is legal. Also, I would have to undo the electrical wiring for the seat which I would rather leave alone. I also cannot think of any healthy and comfortable way to drive a car longer distances other than sitting. My plan then is to not drive for more than 1 hour at a time without taking a 10-minute break.

Other than this, I may make a few minor exceptions to avoid social awkwardness, but I will try to work this out beforehand. Playing the piano is a bit of a challenge, but totally doable.

If you think of other monthly challenges I might be interested in, please let me know. I will give an update on how things went after the month is over.

A Choice Between Two Fundamental Paradigms

I want to live consistently. What does this mean? I believe this means a person has one central paradigm to which everything he does and thinks in life conforms.

I believe there are two fundamental paradigms that one must choose to operate out of, at least for starters.

  1. Mental Reasoning. This would be where the beliefs we hold and the choices we make in life are based upon logical deduction and evidential induction. I believe this is principally encapsulated through three principles of knowledge. First, the law of noncontradiction, which states that A cannot be A and non-A in the same sense and at the same time. Second, the basic reliability of the senses. That is, what we taste, touch, hear, feel, and smell can be relied upon as being true to reality for the most part. Third, the analogical use of language, meaning that language has the capability of communicating meaningful ideas that others can understand and process. This paradigm is what much of modern science and medicine is based upon in the west.
  2. Gut Instinct. This is a paradigm that is irrational in the sense that it is not based upon rules of logic or evidence. Saying it is irrational does not mean it is inferior or wrong; it just means it does not use these rules as its basis for thought and action. Rather, it is an outworking of feelings, beliefs, ideas, and desires. It does not attempt to give reasons for pursuing a course of action. This paradigm is most prominently seen in Eastern religions and philosophies. It is also noticeable in many Christian groups.

How should one choose which of these paradigms to operate out of? There can be no answer to this question. If someone were to use logic to show why living by mental reasoning was better, this would be committing a logical fallacy called circular reasoning. For by using logic, the person has already chosen to operate out of the first choice and his conclusion is therefore found already to be one of his premises. Someone would also not be able to argue that the second paradigm choice is better, because by doing so the person would be presupposing the first paradigm, and thus not really living in the second at all.

Now, I don’t believe most people operate strictly out of one central paradigm. To put it more plainly, I believe most people live inconsistently. This is not to say that they are wrong or inferior for doing so. It simply means that they do not have one overarching paradigm in which they operate. Some of the things they do and believe are based ultimately on mental reasoning and some of the things they do and believe are based ultimately on gut instinct.

If a person is content to live inconsistently, then this blog post will be of no profit to them. However, most of the people I talk with want to live consistently. They don’t like to feel that they might be living inconsistently. I believe these people need to make a definite choice on which of these two fundamental paradigms they are going to operate out of. This way, even if they are wrong, they will at least have the consolation that they were consistent in what they believed and how they lived their lives.

To use a classic Christian example, most Christians believe the Bible is true. However, they want to base this belief on gut instinct only, but also say that it is rational by claiming scientific and archaeological evidence to support it. But this is inconsistent. I can believe the Bible is true because scientific and archaeological evidence support it. However, if I put it on this plane, I must also be willing to admit it is not true if the evidence later does not support it. Conversely, I can believe the Bible is true just because I feel it is or I want it to be. However, in doing so I must also acknowledge that my belief is irrational, meaning that it is not based on logic and evidence, but simply on personal (or spiritual/supernatural) feelings. I can do either of these, but I cannot do both and be consistent.

A Fourth Question?

I was pondering over Romans 8:28 this past week which says, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love Elohim, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”

Loving Elohim is expressed by guarding His commands, as the Messiah stated in John 14:15. In addition, I also desire to have an intimate relationship with my Creator, which becomes a bit more nebulous. At this point, I feel I can say that I do love Elohim.

What about being part of those who are “the called according to his purpose”? If this is strictly denoted as those who are ‘working out their own salvation with fear and trembling’ then I can say that I am absolutely part of this group.

However, is it possible this has a wider connection to those who choose the Father’s purpose in deciding their career and bigger focuses in life? I thought long and hard about this and here are my conclusions:

  1. Whether or not being called according to His purpose means seeking His specific will for your career, loving Him would certainly involve that. So, yes, I do believe you should seek His specific will for your life and career. This would only be expected if you are a servant of the Most High.
  2. Seeking His will for your life happens first in a general way. Many people resort to mystical procedures to ‘find the Father’s will.’ However, before we need anything personal, we should first just try to follow the commands of Scripture. Do this personally and consistently. Decide what paradigm of interpretation you use to categorize and understand what is written.
  3. If you find yourself asking what His will is for your life and are already involved in a career, feel free to remain in that career and glorify Elohim through it. Bloom where you are planted. The Apostle Paul said in I Corinthians 7:20, “Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.” Unless your career choice is clearly immoral, such as being an abortionist or a prostitute, don’t feel you need to run off in search of some ‘new calling’ by the Lord.
  4. If you are just starting out, I see nothing better than to ask the 3 questions I mentioned in a previous post. The Father gave us natural strengths and desires, and we will develop a fuller understanding of what the world truly needs (from the Father’s perspective) if we have been following His commands passionately.

When I first thought about the Father’s will in conjunction with my career choice, I thought I might have to revise my 3 questions to include that or create a fourth question. However, I realized that I either know the Father’s will or I do not know it. If I know it, then obviously I should follow that and no other questions or considerations need be in the equation. But if I do not know His will, I believe the method outlined above is better than frantically trying to discern it through experiences, coincidences, or random Scripture passages. Casting lots is a Biblical method for discerning the Father’s will, but I would only use it in major decisions as a last resort to choose between two or more equally desirable choices.

The Yoga Connection

Most of the people to whom I mention that I practice yoga are either very receptive to it or else somewhat skeptical of it.

Much of the skepticism comes from Christians who are aware that yoga originated as a Hindu worship rite. The physical exercises, postures, diaphragmatic breathing, and meditation popularly associated with yoga are more accurately a specific branch called Hatha yoga. Legend has it that Lord Shiva propounded this particular discipline.

A couple thoughts I would like to give about this:

  1. Just because something originated as part of a pagan worship ceremony does not mean it is wrong. This would lead to absurdity. For example, let’s suppose that stretching originated as an act of worship to the lord Stretchu. Would this mean that stretching is wrong? This of course would be ridiculous. There are many innocent customs inbred in our culture that originated as ancient pagan worship rites. Also, there are probably many others that we don’t even know about and we are unwittingly sinning if the pagan origin of these customs makes them wrong to practice.
  2. What actually needs to be avoided is immoral actions and worship of other deities. Christmas and Easter also originated with pagan worship rites. Please look this up for yourself online if this is new to you; there are many articles addressing this topic. Does this mean that giving gifts is sinful? No. What made these holidays sinful? First, the immoral actions practiced during them, such as fornication, child sacrifice, and drunken carousel. Second, the deities worshiped during them, such as Mithra and Ishtar. If the immoral actions and false worship are avoided, there is nothing inherently wrong with engaging in all of the customs associated with these holidays. In fact, there can be much good that results.

Yes, yoga originated as a Hindu worship discipline. Yes, Lord Shiva propounded Hatha yoga, a version of which is what is commonly practiced in the West. And if you do yoga as part of a Hindu worship rite or focus on Lord Shiva in your meditation, then definitely this would be unscriptural and wrong from a Christian perspective. However, if you do it to improve health, awareness, peace, and connection with YHVH, I see nothing wrong with it.

Yoga connects posture, balance, stretching, and breath. As such, it is the most fulfilling exercise routine I practice. The spiritual and breath connections are a major part of its appeal to me. In I Corinthians 8, Paul states that eating meat offered to idols even in the idol’s temple is not wrong, but he also states that he will not do so if it makes a weaker brother violate his conscience. I will take the same approach. If I was mentoring someone in their Christian walk and they had qualms about yoga, I would probably abstain from practicing it.

In a future post, I will delve more into the concept of meditation. For now, I will leave you with Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am Elohim.”

Following the Spirit

‘Living in the spirit’ and ‘following the spirit’ are both phrases Christians use to describe internal urges to do things which are considered to be the Holy Spirit’s direction.

The question though is, how do you decide if an internal urge to do something is the Spirit’s direction or not. If one is not careful, the desire to ‘follow the spirit’ can lead to all sorts of possible misplaced convictions.

Some say they always know with 100% certainty when the Spirit is leading them to do something. If this is the case with you, then this post will be unnecessary. However, I imagine a lot of people are like me, and not totally sure when an internal urge is from the Spirit. After all, Jeremiah 17:9 says “The heart is deceitful above all things…”

My way of dealing with this is twofold:

  1. Whatever your current focus commandment or principle is, heed any urges associated with that focus. If your focus is on being more generous, and you have the urge to give a sizable donation to a ministry, do so. If your focus is on witnessing, and you feel like maybe you should hand a tract to the person standing in front of you, do so. Interpret those feelings to do something in line with your focus as the spirit’s prompting.
  2. Allow internal urges to aid in determining your next focus commandment or principle. How you choose what to focus on is not a science. Along with reasons why you believe something would be good for you right now, allow possible promptings of the Spirit to factor into this decision.

Expect the spirit to lead you in these ways by asking for His filling regularly, as directed in Luke 11:13 and Ephesians 5:18.

I believe there are two great pitfalls one can fall into as a Christian. The first is complacency. This can result out of frustration with not being able to understand everything or preoccupation with our own personal pursuits. A lack of reverence for the Scriptures results. There ceases to be a “trembling at his word” (Isaiah 66:5). Sometimes, there is even a belittling of the Word that follows.

The second pitfall is following what are possibly misplaced convictions. There was a time in my life when I tried to follow every nuance of Scripture and every possible urge that I thought might be the Spirit’s prompting at the same time. This led to many extreme actions and a lifestyle of guilt that I wasn’t doing everything I should be doing.

Following the spirit is one process that many either take to an extreme or else just don’t worry about. I believe the approach I have outlined will help you as you seek to discover how to balance reason with sensation.

Does making music make you smarter?

Last week, at a concert in which I performed, a children’s choir sang two selections. Someone commented backstage how blessed these children were because ‘making music makes you smarter’.

Is this true?

There are findings that seem to support and refute the idea. Many people are aware of the “Mozart effect” study which claims listening to classical music, especially Mozart, can boost intelligence. For refutations of this popular idea, check out this article from Time magazine, as well as boston.com.

I lean toward the opinion that making music does not make you smarter. However, in any case, I think it better to focus on music’s intrinsic benefits and leave the possibility of it upping your math and science scores for academics to worry about.

I believe music’s real benefit is twofold.

  1. Music calls us to embrace the present. It creates a mood, a setting, an environment that allows us to reflect on deeper realities, to express who we really are, and to dream big.
  2. Music helps us connect our left brain to our right brain. Playing a musical instrument forces one to have great technical mastery as well as great depth of expression in order to really create something meaningful.

While these benefits may not make you the next Einstein, I firmly believe you are missing out in life without making music – at the very least the performances of others – part of your schedule.

Cold Showers

Recently, the place I was staying at lost hot water. Thus, I was compelled to take a cold shower. Horrors! From this experience I learned several fascinating things:

  1. It was difficult. I almost decided to just take a spritz bath at the sink after turning the water on and testing the temperature with my hand.
  2. I wasted much less time in the shower. Indeed, I don’t think I have ever been as productive in this regard
  3. I felt so much more motivated and ready to take on the day. Usually, right after I get out of the shower, I don’t feel like moving that fast and am not quite ready to focus my mind on the start of the day’s activities.
  4. I like the rewards that come from doing hard things. There is an awesome psychological energy that comes when we face our fears, even of small things, and break our comfort zone.

After this experience, I decided to look up online to see if anyone purposefully took cold showers. What I found is that there is even some purported health benefits to this activity. Check out this article for some more info on this.

So, I’ve decided to take cold showers regularly. I still take hot ones here and there, but most of the time I turn the water to cold or at best lukewarm-cold.

If you feel inspired to try this out for yourself, please share your sensations. I would love to hear from you.

Dispensing with a False Dichotomy

A dichotomy is a strict division between two positions that are looked at as mutually exclusive. A false dichotomy occurs when only two positions are presented when there are actually more options to consider.

Such a condition exists today in the battle between conventional and alternative medicine.

In her article Integrating Alternative Medicine and Conventional Medicine, Evelyn Lim provided good definitions of the two general categories:

Conventional medicine is used to describe the services that treat the symptoms of a disease or illness with prescribed medications and surgeries. Conventional medicine treats the ailing part of the body but may not address the underlying causes of the illness or disease. This area of medicine is what is practiced in hospitals and most doctor’s offices in the Western world. Backed by the FDA and multiple scientific studies, conventional medicine is highly regulated for the benefit of the patient.

An alternative form of treatment to conventional medicine, alternative medicine attempts to treat the patient as a whole – the mind, spirit, and body — to prevent diseases and illnesses from occurring and creating a better overall quality of life rather than just a body free of symptoms. Because it acknowledges that the patient’s physical health is directly affected by state of mind and spiritual health, alternative medicine offers preventative treatments that are often relaxing and non-invasive.

This description in Wikipedia rounds out the second definition:

Alternative medicine is any practice that is put forward as having the healing effects of medicine but is not based on evidence gathered using the scientific method.[1] It consists of a wide range of health care practices, products and therapies,[2] using alternative medical diagnoses and treatments which typically have not been included in the degree courses of established medical schools or used in conventional medicine. Examples of alternative medicine include homeopathy, naturopathy, chiropractic, energy medicine and acupuncture.

These definitions reflect what I said in a previous post about the multiple levels of health and how each is important. Conventional medicine deals with symptoms, while alternative medicine deals with prevention. Obviously, this is a major generalization. There are many practices in conventional medicine that target prevention, such as vaccinations and treatments given in response to the patient’s blood work. Many of the practices in alternative medicine also target symptoms, but this is done by attempting to fix the alleged cause of the problem.

Now, it is nice to say that you are working on fixing the root cause of a disease, but often this is not easy to determine. It is relatively easy to determine if some treatment minimizes the symptoms. It is very difficult to say some treatment fixed the root problem. I believe this is why conventional medicine tends to focus more on treating the symptom, because that is something that can be definitely tested.

In my estimation, misunderstandings exist on both sides. Here is what some think of alternative medicine:

  1. “It has not been scientifically proven yet.” Neither was the benefits of hand-washing a couple hundred of years ago. While I would be very hesitant to advocate something as a main treatment for a problem that had shady scientific credentials, I would definitely recommend trying it out on the side if others had good experiences with it and it did not pose any risks.
  2. “It is too ‘mystical’ to be valid.” Even if some practice or alternative treatment does have some seeming clinical support, many conventional practitioners would still avoid it if it just seems too “mystical” or “new-agey.” This is more of a worldview problem than anything else.

Here are some common critiques of conventional medicine:

  1. “They just treat the symptom.” As if this is a bad thing! Treating symptoms is half of what medicine is about. Also, this is untrue, as conventional medicine does also try to prevent diseases and treat root causes, such as removing tumors.
  2. “Drugs, surgery, and radiation are ‘unnatural’ and therefore bad.” Pharmaceutical drugs are synthesized in a lab, so they must be bad, right? No, they are chemicals just like everything else around us. Some might contain substances that will not be good for our health in the long run, though they certainly can help out in the moment of need. Certain words just mean ‘bad’ to some people. Radiation! Oh, no! (sarcasm)

If these misconceptions can be cleared up, and people start realizing the value that both sides of this false dichotomy can bring to their lives, this will be good for everyone involved.

Not Judging the Judger

Ever since I have been focused more on not judging other people’s beliefs or lifestyles, I have developed a habit of judging those who judge others. That is, I criticize and tear down those who criticize and tear down others.

This, I feel, is not consistent. If I am truly focused on being less judgmental, this needs to also apply to those who are judgmental. This is similar to the principle of tolerance. If you want to really practice tolerance, you must also be tolerant of the intolerant, even those who don’t tolerate your position to be tolerant!

This requires a great deal of humility. However, it also brings the most true freedom from being affected by what other people do and believe. Here are some things I’ve learned in attempting to integrate this attitude of acceptance and understanding into my life:

  1. Stop trying to solve the world’s problems, and just focus on fixing your own. When I run out of things to work on in my life, then I might try to help the world out some more. Until then, it is probably better for me to focus on getting my own house together.
  2. Realize that love is stronger than argument for the intolerant. Instead of mimicking the intolerance of others, be different. Allow them to speak their minds. Don’t correct them. Remember, you have been there before yourself, when you just needed someone to let you rant. Sometimes the best way to fight people’s intolerance, if that is your goal, is to just accept their intolerance, that their opinions matter, that they are important. Once they realize this, they might have the motivation to focus on something more productive than tearing down the beliefs and lifestyles of others.
  3. Seek to learn from those who are judgmental. First, realize the tendencies you have to be the same way, and let these people be a reminder of what you don’t want to be like. Second, realize that these people have a lot of knowledge and truth; they just choose to apply it destructively rather than productively. Acquire the wisdom they have without picking up their attitude of intolerance.

Ultimately, judging other people’s beliefs and lifestyles is not wrong. In fact, it is almost impossible to avoid in a lot of cases. However, what I want is to be able to judge rationally and justly, and this requires purposely withholding judgment for the time being to discover how to do this.

“Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.” ~ John 7:24