How to make everything you do in life meaningful

With a title like that, this had better be a good blog post, right?

The first thing that needs to be addressed is the word ‘meaningful’. Here are some things I do not mean when I use this word:

  • Exciting. Though there are a lot of things that I do which I find quite exciting on one or multiple levels, there are definitely other things I do which are just as meaningful but lack the excitement.
  • Easy. A lot of things that are worth doing are not easy. Also, the word ‘easy’ usually means something that appeals to our fleshly desires. With this understanding, my definition of meaningful would include nothing easy.
  • Appreciated by others. It is always nice to feel like others respect you for what you do, but sometimes doing meaningful things will make others think you are weird. Or, they may hate the meaning you have in your life and seek to do you harm.
  • Emotionally fulfilling. Something meaningful will produce emotional fulfillment. However, it will almost never be immediate. And since I usually think of an activity as being emotionally fulfilling if I experience this type of fulfillment while doing the activity, this would mean that much of what I define as meaningful would not fit into this category.

I define a meaningful activity as one that I believe will move me closer to the most ideal state of existence. This of necessity would involve eternity. So, perhaps I should retitle this post, How to make everything you do in life eternally meaningful. By definition, this excludes everything done by most atheists as being meaningful (unless you are an atheist that believes in eternity somehow). I am not trying to offend by saying that; this is simply what my definition of meaning requires.

At this point, you must ask yourself this question. Are you 100% confident that what you are doing now will move you closer to the most ideal state of existence in eternity? If so, you need only follow what you already know. However, I’m assuming most of you are like me and not 100% confident, though you do feel like you have some pretty good guesses.

You need to do two things now. First, define in a nutshell what an ideal state of existence would be for you. Obviously, you cannot give a full definition, since you have never experienced this, and can only think about it. However, give it your best shot. My ideal existence would be one where I was living in total health and consciousness forever, and I believe this can only happen when I have an ever-present connection with the eternal YHVH.

Second, lay out a paradigm of how to view time, so you can always be moving towards this goal. You cannot push the pause button in life and figure everything out and then push play and act on your deliberatation. You have to deliberate, think, and plan as you are going through life. You need to create a paradigm of how you manage time in order to do this successfully. The way I solve this is through my paradigm of living in appointed times by faith. See my post on this subject, as well as part 2, part 3, and part 4 if you want to understand what this means.

Everything I do in life is meaningful now that I am following these paradigms. It may not be exciting. It may not be easy. It may not be appreciated by others. It may not be emotionally fulfilling right now. However, it is all eternally meaningful. Please share your thoughts if you have some ideas on meaning that are different than mine. I would love to hear them.

Identity

There are many things about my physical body that I would gladly trade off for someone else’s. I have chronic tendon pain in my wrists and arms, chronic mid-back pain from my kyphoscoliosis, and chronic sinus problems of one kind or another. My hair is balding in the front and in the back, I almost always have pimples on my face (I have used creams, taken pills, and changed my diet), and my hamstrings are incredibly tight even though I stretch them profusely. I work on all these aspects of my health and appearance. Sometimes they get better and sometimes they get worse.

If I had the option, I would love to exchange a lot of my health and features for someone else’s. However, I LOVE my consciousness. This is what keeps me going even when all the other problems weigh down on me at the same time and helps me to rise above all that mess. I would not trade my consciousness for anything in the world. What is my consciousness, you ask?

  1. Is it knowledge? Well, not exactly, though it does include some of this. However, although I have a fair amount of knowledge in a lot of areas, there are still many areas where I know little or nothing at all.
  2. Is it skill? No, though there are many skills my sense of consciousness has helped to develop. However, probably the area I am most skilled in is music and there are plenty of people I can name that I could exchange my skills for and be much better off.
  3. Is it achievements? No. Achievements are all in the past and resting on my laurels, what few of them there are, does not constitute who I am.

My consciousness is my sense of identity and purpose. This entire blog for the most part is an outworking of my consciousness. If you look at the About Me page you will see the meaning of my name and my purpose statements. If you look at my Statement of Belief page you will see my journey in articulating my identity. Can I fully describe what I mean when I say my consciousness? No, I cannot. Ultimately, it is a metaphysical reality that must be experienced and only can be explained crudely.

Why is this? Well, it has its origin in the divine, the source of all energy, all matter, and all time. I was created with the capacity to know this person, and the pursuit of that connection is worth everything. I am infinitesimally important because He is infinite.

Find your consciousness. Find your identity. Find your purpose. This will sustain you even when everything else in life betrays you.

Witnessing

I thought some might benefit if I shared my current witnessing routine. My reason for witnessing is primarily twofold. First, Y’shua (Jesus) told His disciples in Matthew 18:19-20, “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you.” Second, I made a vow to witness to at least one person every week a few years ago. Although I don’t recommend open-ended vows like this, I believe the Father has still used it for good in my life. So, this is how I currently go about witnessing “officially,” though there are also “unofficial” encounters as well.

  1. Have gospel tracts to hand out. The type I like the best are intelligence tests. This is for two purposes. First, to initiate a conversation. I usually do this in malls when I find someone relatively unoccupied. I will ask him or her if they have received one of these (a tract). When they ask what it is, I tell them it is an intelligence test and if they would mind if I asked them a question. If the answer is yes, the conversation begins. If no, I politely thank them and walk off. The second purpose is to hopefully leave something with them that they might read over more later.
  2. See if they are interested in a brief survey. I think surveys are a great way to transition towards Scripture. You want the survey to be ending up in spiritual belief questions. The survey I currently do is on music and spiritual belief and how they intersect. This is natural for me, as I am a musician, and I feel it has relevance and can interest others. If they are not interested, I thank them politely for their time and leave.
  3. Transition to Scripture. The survey will set the stage to discuss spiritual beliefs. The last question will be “If something you were believing was not true, would you want to know?” If the answer is ‘no’ then I politely thank them and leave. If the answer is yes, then I ask if they would be interested in me showing them some things in the Gospels.
  4. Prepare a list of verses to have them read aloud and then ask what it means to them. I credit this style of witnessing to Bill Fay, though I use different verses than he does. I start by having them read verses relating to the Christ’s understanding of Himself as the son of the Eternal and then move to verses speaking on the resurrection. After this, I have included other verses that I feel are important in communicating the whole message of the Gospel at least as I know it. I will post the complete list of verses and go into why I chose each one in a future post.
  5. Ask a final question or two. Unless they initiate the desire to do something, I will just keep moving through the verses and trust the Spirit to do His work through His word. I may ask, “Would you like to make a commitment to follow the Christ in this way?” Since Acts 2:38 and Acts 22:16 are both included in the list of verses, I would expect them to desire to be baptized if they said they wanted to make a commitment to follow the Christ. Though I have not yet had the privilege of seeing someone make a commitment to follow the Christ after witnessing to them, if this did happen, I would baptize them at the earliest possible opportunity if this was their desire.

Please feel free to use this method of witnessing if you like and to modify different aspects as well. There is not a right and a wrong way to witness. What is important is that you find a way that is natural for you. Mine is an amalgamation of several different methods about which I have read.

Defining the word “Christian”

Defining terms is crucial in any discussion or debate. I would like my readers to know how I define the word “Christian.”

When I say I am a Christian or someone else is a Christian or a particular denomination is Christian, I am saying that person or denomination does two things:

  1. They believe that Y’shua (Jesus) the Christ was resurrected. Disagreement can be had as to the nature of His body, whether physical, spiritual, or a hybrid.
  2. They desire to follow the Christ. They say they have this desire. I can not look into their hearts to know if they really do desire this, so I must trust their profession. Also, there will be many different ways people go about following the Christ, but what is important here is not how they desire to follow Him but that they desire to follow Him.

Any person who professes these two things I call a Christian. Any denomination that affirms these two things I call a Christian denomination.

Does this mean that I think all Christians are going to inherit eternal life? Not necessarily. Only the Father knows who has eternal life among this group. It may be all or it may be only a few.

I believe this is a useful definition if used in this way and I hope others will start doing so. However, even if this does not happen and the word remains vague or defined differently by each denomination, at least my readers will know what I mean when I use the word “Christian.”

Serenity Prayer

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will; that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.”
Reinhold Niebuhr

I came across a bookmark with this prayer on it and loved it so much I decided to post it on my blog. I have seen a shortened version with just the first sentence several times, but the rest of it is just as good. A couple comments on why it resonates with me so much:

  1. It acknowledges the tension between personal development and contentment. I am very interested in conscious growth spiritually, physically, mentally, and socially. However, I also realize the benefit of accepting myself the way the Father made me. But, did the Father make me with or intend me to live with the physical or motivational flaws I have, or should I seek to change these aspects of my physique and personality?
  2. It exalts the concept of living in the moment. When I was in my teens, I had many idealized dreams about my future. Sometimes this was because I did not like myself and so liked imagining a time when I would be a world-class performer, speak to thousands of people, and write books that would change the world. Unfortunately, this idealized future focus caused me to apply myself less in the present. I now try to view each week, each day, and even each moment as special and be grateful for every breath.
  3. It recognizes the role of suffering as the precursor for greater peace and joy. Philosophically, peace and joy do not make a whole lot of sense without suffering. If we did not have painful experiences to compare them with, we would not look at peace or joy as something special, but just as our ordinary experience.
  4. It implies that fighting the world is not our calling, but rather surrendering to His will. Christians are called to follow the Christ’s commandments. Principally, this involves loving YHVH with all your heart and loving your neighbor as yourself. Judging others is usually a reactive attitude, whereas loving others is a proactive behavior
  5. It recognizes that the ultimate goal in life is to find personal fulfillment or happiness. This is true of the here and now and also of eternity. I, too, want to be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Halleluyah!

This prayer really encapsulates my existence right now. Perhaps you would be blessed by thinking about it and making it your prayer as well.

A Month of No Sitting on Chairs or Benches

Trying radical concepts out for short periods of time is, I believe, integral for ongoing personal development. Starting tomorrow, I am embarking on my first monthly challenge: no sitting on chairs or benches.

Here are some reasons why I am doing this:

  1. Sitting on chairs or benches even for short periods of time causes me to have back pain.
  2. It is harder for me to focus on correct posture when sitting on a chair or bench.
  3. I want to develop other rest positions, such as squatting and hero pose, and use them comfortably.

The ground rules are pretty simple. I will not sit on any chair or bench for the next month. This includes couches, piano benches, pews, and stools, as well as ordinary chairs.

The only major exception I am making is car seats. I thought of removing my car seat, but I am not totally sure it is legal. Also, I would have to undo the electrical wiring for the seat which I would rather leave alone. I also cannot think of any healthy and comfortable way to drive a car longer distances other than sitting. My plan then is to not drive for more than 1 hour at a time without taking a 10-minute break.

Other than this, I may make a few minor exceptions to avoid social awkwardness, but I will try to work this out beforehand. Playing the piano is a bit of a challenge, but totally doable.

If you think of other monthly challenges I might be interested in, please let me know. I will give an update on how things went after the month is over.

A Choice Between Two Fundamental Paradigms

I want to live consistently. What does this mean? I believe this means a person has one central paradigm to which everything he does and thinks in life conforms.

I believe there are two fundamental paradigms that one must choose to operate out of, at least for starters.

  1. Mental Reasoning. This would be where the beliefs we hold and the choices we make in life are based upon logical deduction and evidential induction. I believe this is principally encapsulated through three principles of knowledge. First, the law of noncontradiction, which states that A cannot be A and non-A in the same sense and at the same time. Second, the basic reliability of the senses. That is, what we taste, touch, hear, feel, and smell can be relied upon as being true to reality for the most part. Third, the analogical use of language, meaning that language has the capability of communicating meaningful ideas that others can understand and process. This paradigm is what much of modern science and medicine is based upon in the west.
  2. Gut Instinct. This is a paradigm that is irrational in the sense that it is not based upon rules of logic or evidence. Saying it is irrational does not mean it is inferior or wrong; it just means it does not use these rules as its basis for thought and action. Rather, it is an outworking of feelings, beliefs, ideas, and desires. It does not attempt to give reasons for pursuing a course of action. This paradigm is most prominently seen in Eastern religions and philosophies. It is also noticeable in many Christian groups.

How should one choose which of these paradigms to operate out of? There can be no answer to this question. If someone were to use logic to show why living by mental reasoning was better, this would be committing a logical fallacy called circular reasoning. For by using logic, the person has already chosen to operate out of the first choice and his conclusion is therefore found already to be one of his premises. Someone would also not be able to argue that the second paradigm choice is better, because by doing so the person would be presupposing the first paradigm, and thus not really living in the second at all.

Now, I don’t believe most people operate strictly out of one central paradigm. To put it more plainly, I believe most people live inconsistently. This is not to say that they are wrong or inferior for doing so. It simply means that they do not have one overarching paradigm in which they operate. Some of the things they do and believe are based ultimately on mental reasoning and some of the things they do and believe are based ultimately on gut instinct.

If a person is content to live inconsistently, then this blog post will be of no profit to them. However, most of the people I talk with want to live consistently. They don’t like to feel that they might be living inconsistently. I believe these people need to make a definite choice on which of these two fundamental paradigms they are going to operate out of. This way, even if they are wrong, they will at least have the consolation that they were consistent in what they believed and how they lived their lives.

To use a classic Christian example, most Christians believe the Bible is true. However, they want to base this belief on gut instinct only, but also say that it is rational by claiming scientific and archaeological evidence to support it. But this is inconsistent. I can believe the Bible is true because scientific and archaeological evidence support it. However, if I put it on this plane, I must also be willing to admit it is not true if the evidence later does not support it. Conversely, I can believe the Bible is true just because I feel it is or I want it to be. However, in doing so I must also acknowledge that my belief is irrational, meaning that it is not based on logic and evidence, but simply on personal (or spiritual/supernatural) feelings. I can do either of these, but I cannot do both and be consistent.

A Fourth Question?

I was pondering over Romans 8:28 this past week which says, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love Elohim, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”

Loving Elohim is expressed by guarding His commands, as the Messiah stated in John 14:15. In addition, I also desire to have an intimate relationship with my Creator, which becomes a bit more nebulous. At this point, I feel I can say that I do love Elohim.

What about being part of those who are “the called according to his purpose”? If this is strictly denoted as those who are ‘working out their own salvation with fear and trembling’ then I can say that I am absolutely part of this group.

However, is it possible this has a wider connection to those who choose the Father’s purpose in deciding their career and bigger focuses in life? I thought long and hard about this and here are my conclusions:

  1. Whether or not being called according to His purpose means seeking His specific will for your career, loving Him would certainly involve that. So, yes, I do believe you should seek His specific will for your life and career. This would only be expected if you are a servant of the Most High.
  2. Seeking His will for your life happens first in a general way. Many people resort to mystical procedures to ‘find the Father’s will.’ However, before we need anything personal, we should first just try to follow the commands of Scripture. Do this personally and consistently. Decide what paradigm of interpretation you use to categorize and understand what is written.
  3. If you find yourself asking what His will is for your life and are already involved in a career, feel free to remain in that career and glorify Elohim through it. Bloom where you are planted. The Apostle Paul said in I Corinthians 7:20, “Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.” Unless your career choice is clearly immoral, such as being an abortionist or a prostitute, don’t feel you need to run off in search of some ‘new calling’ by the Lord.
  4. If you are just starting out, I see nothing better than to ask the 3 questions I mentioned in a previous post. The Father gave us natural strengths and desires, and we will develop a fuller understanding of what the world truly needs (from the Father’s perspective) if we have been following His commands passionately.

When I first thought about the Father’s will in conjunction with my career choice, I thought I might have to revise my 3 questions to include that or create a fourth question. However, I realized that I either know the Father’s will or I do not know it. If I know it, then obviously I should follow that and no other questions or considerations need be in the equation. But if I do not know His will, I believe the method outlined above is better than frantically trying to discern it through experiences, coincidences, or random Scripture passages. Casting lots is a Biblical method for discerning the Father’s will, but I would only use it in major decisions as a last resort to choose between two or more equally desirable choices.

The Yoga Connection

Most of the people to whom I mention that I practice yoga are either very receptive to it or else somewhat skeptical of it.

Much of the skepticism comes from Christians who are aware that yoga originated as a Hindu worship rite. The physical exercises, postures, diaphragmatic breathing, and meditation popularly associated with yoga are more accurately a specific branch called Hatha yoga. Legend has it that Lord Shiva propounded this particular discipline.

A couple thoughts I would like to give about this:

  1. Just because something originated as part of a pagan worship ceremony does not mean it is wrong. This would lead to absurdity. For example, let’s suppose that stretching originated as an act of worship to the lord Stretchu. Would this mean that stretching is wrong? This of course would be ridiculous. There are many innocent customs inbred in our culture that originated as ancient pagan worship rites. Also, there are probably many others that we don’t even know about and we are unwittingly sinning if the pagan origin of these customs makes them wrong to practice.
  2. What actually needs to be avoided is immoral actions and worship of other deities. Christmas and Easter also originated with pagan worship rites. Please look this up for yourself online if this is new to you; there are many articles addressing this topic. Does this mean that giving gifts is sinful? No. What made these holidays sinful? First, the immoral actions practiced during them, such as fornication, child sacrifice, and drunken carousel. Second, the deities worshiped during them, such as Mithra and Ishtar. If the immoral actions and false worship are avoided, there is nothing inherently wrong with engaging in all of the customs associated with these holidays. In fact, there can be much good that results.

Yes, yoga originated as a Hindu worship discipline. Yes, Lord Shiva propounded Hatha yoga, a version of which is what is commonly practiced in the West. And if you do yoga as part of a Hindu worship rite or focus on Lord Shiva in your meditation, then definitely this would be unscriptural and wrong from a Christian perspective. However, if you do it to improve health, awareness, peace, and connection with YHVH, I see nothing wrong with it.

Yoga connects posture, balance, stretching, and breath. As such, it is the most fulfilling exercise routine I practice. The spiritual and breath connections are a major part of its appeal to me. In I Corinthians 8, Paul states that eating meat offered to idols even in the idol’s temple is not wrong, but he also states that he will not do so if it makes a weaker brother violate his conscience. I will take the same approach. If I was mentoring someone in their Christian walk and they had qualms about yoga, I would probably abstain from practicing it.

In a future post, I will delve more into the concept of meditation. For now, I will leave you with Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am Elohim.”

Following the Spirit

‘Living in the spirit’ and ‘following the spirit’ are both phrases Christians use to describe internal urges to do things which are considered to be the Holy Spirit’s direction.

The question though is, how do you decide if an internal urge to do something is the Spirit’s direction or not. If one is not careful, the desire to ‘follow the spirit’ can lead to all sorts of possible misplaced convictions.

Some say they always know with 100% certainty when the Spirit is leading them to do something. If this is the case with you, then this post will be unnecessary. However, I imagine a lot of people are like me, and not totally sure when an internal urge is from the Spirit. After all, Jeremiah 17:9 says “The heart is deceitful above all things…”

My way of dealing with this is twofold:

  1. Whatever your current focus commandment or principle is, heed any urges associated with that focus. If your focus is on being more generous, and you have the urge to give a sizable donation to a ministry, do so. If your focus is on witnessing, and you feel like maybe you should hand a tract to the person standing in front of you, do so. Interpret those feelings to do something in line with your focus as the spirit’s prompting.
  2. Allow internal urges to aid in determining your next focus commandment or principle. How you choose what to focus on is not a science. Along with reasons why you believe something would be good for you right now, allow possible promptings of the Spirit to factor into this decision.

Expect the spirit to lead you in these ways by asking for His filling regularly, as directed in Luke 11:13 and Ephesians 5:18.

I believe there are two great pitfalls one can fall into as a Christian. The first is complacency. This can result out of frustration with not being able to understand everything or preoccupation with our own personal pursuits. A lack of reverence for the Scriptures results. There ceases to be a “trembling at his word” (Isaiah 66:5). Sometimes, there is even a belittling of the Word that follows.

The second pitfall is following what are possibly misplaced convictions. There was a time in my life when I tried to follow every nuance of Scripture and every possible urge that I thought might be the Spirit’s prompting at the same time. This led to many extreme actions and a lifestyle of guilt that I wasn’t doing everything I should be doing.

Following the spirit is one process that many either take to an extreme or else just don’t worry about. I believe the approach I have outlined will help you as you seek to discover how to balance reason with sensation.